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Thursday, February 26, 2015

What kind of lingerie do you wear?

The other day, a reader wrote in with a question, and I'm curious to hear what you think...
Hi Joanna,

I'm dating a new guy, and I want to get some nice lingerie, but...eesh. I don't know where to begin. It got me thinking: What does the modern woman wear for special sexy times? Do women still wear garter belts or the thing that attaches your underwear to your stockings? Or is that just in the movies? I'm curious to hear the perspective of you and your readers.

Thanks! Molly
Hmmm, these days I'm wearing pajamas with socks to bed (WINTER), but for special occasions and trips, I've always liked Eberjey, which I've mentioned before—their chemises are soft and pretty. On the fly, you could just grab one of his button-down shirts and pair it with lacy underwear (like these!); it's always a sexy look. If you want some inspiration, Lonely Lingerie has beautifully real models. And, just for fun, you could always try one of these "cheerleading" skirts from American Apparel;)

Please share: What do you guys wear? Garter belts? Slips? Regular old underwear? Help a lady out! xoxo
P.S. Did you have sex on your wedding night? Plus, an easy way to have more sex.

Being Mortal documentary

I realize that Atul Gawande is becoming a leitmotif of this site, but I love him so much and can't stop writing about his work. PBS just created a 54-minute documentary based on his book, Being Mortal, in which Gawande examines how he and other physicians struggle to talk with patients about death and dying. It's honest, brave and beautiful.

You can watch a three-minute excerpt here:

And you can watch the full documentary (for free) on PBS. Highly recommended. xo

Woven wall hangings

You know when you learn a new word and then suddenly start hearing it everywhere? Well, the same phenomenon is happening with wall hangings. My friend Audrey told me she was making them, and now I'm suddenly seeing them everywhere: house tours, on Instagram, in friends' apartments. They can be neon and graphic or neutral and abstract, and it's a cool twist on affordable art.

Here are a few places to find them:
Hazel & Hunter
MW Textiles
Urban Outfitters
Sunday in Color
Hollin Textiles
Wallflower WeavingsThoughts? Do you have a woven wall hanging? Would you?

P.S. Where to find affordable art.

(Top photo by Honey Lake Studio for Design*Sponge)

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Munchkin bath toys

This winter, we've been spending tons of time indoors with Toby and Anton, and one way to keep them happy is to take bubble baths.
To mix things up, I got some toys from Munchkin, the LA-based company that makes clever products for kids. All their gear and toys have a quirky twist.
Both boys LOVE the penguin bubble blower (which blows bubbles all over the bath!), bath crayons (which wipe right off) and pour whales (which make the water "rain"). And we use this brilliant rinser for washing their hair.
(Just like a teacher!)

Munchkin has really smart solutions in a bunch of areas, like feeding, travel and babyproofing. See all their products here.
(How genius are these Miracle 360 Cups that don't spill??? I'm excited to have Anton try one.)

Today, they're giving one lucky reader a $500 gift certificate to To enter, please follow them on Instagram (@munchkininc), then leave a comment below. A winner will be chosen at random tomorrow. Good luck, and thank you! Update: The winner has been e-mailed. Thanks for playing!

(This post is sponsored by Munchkin. Munchkin rids the world of the mundane by developing clever, innovative solutions that make family life safer, easier and more fun. You can find Munchkin products at Target and Thanks so much for supporting the brands that support Cup of Jo.)

How to stop yourself from crying

Years ago, I had a scary boss, who taught me a lot, but would also inexplicably fly off the handle every few days. Often I could keep it together, but other times I would end up crying in the bathroom and putting wet toilet paper on my eyes to keep them from puffing up. (Glamorous!) Thankfully, I discovered a bizarre trick to stop yourself from crying every single time...

Four breakfast tartines

Have you had a tartine? It's basically the French name for an open-faced sandwich, and they're totally delicious. Today, Joy from 3 Chairs shares her recipe for four breakfast tartines: two savory and two sweet. Here's how to make them...

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Which famous people do you want to be friends with?

Okay, here's our pressing question for the day: Which celebrities or characters would you like to be friends with? (My answer is always and forever Jennifer Garner, plus Mike Myers from So I Married an Axe Murderer.) Above is Emily McDowell's answer, and share yours below...

This is part of a series with illustrator Emily McDowell, who asks us a burning question every month, such as what are your pet peeves and what's in the back of your fridge?

(Illustration by Emily McDowell for Cup of Jo)

How to look like a J.Crew model

Last week, Caroline went backstage at the J.Crew presentation to see what Fashion Week is really like behind-the-scenes. Here, she reveals the secrets of perfectly messy hair and the one thing EVERY model does...

Monday, February 23, 2015

How do you teach your kids to talk to strangers?

Right down our block is a gourmet deli, and we'll often stop by for milk or a little treat. The owner, Wally, is totally adorable and has tons of inside jokes with Toby and Anton—and once even let Toby come behind the counter, which was basically the highlight of his young life.

For the past four years, Toby has chatted up every grocery clerk, old lady sitting on a stoop, guy walking a dog, mail carrier...and don't get him started with cab drivers! ("What's your name?" "Are you a daddy?" "What kind of car is this?" "I LOVE NISSANS!"). I love his gregariousness and encourage him to strike up conversations. It makes New York feel like Sesame Street.

Drew Hoolhorst recently wrote a beautiful essay about expecting a child, and I liked this part:
Let’s tell him to hold the door open for every person, ever. To talk to the guy at the grocery store, because it’s fun. Let’s tell him to talk to strangers for the most part, because as long as they’re not in the back of a van strangers get a bad rap. They’re the joy of your life and you should talk to as many of them as possible.

I wholeheartedly agree, and I'm the same way. But as Toby gets older, now and again, I'm wonder, when should talk you talk to kids about stranger danger? And what should you say? The vast, vast majority of people are warmhearted, and I don't want to make Toby nervous around strangers or quash his friendly spirit.

When we were growing up, my mom read us books like this. She also had the genius idea to come up with a secret phrase: "Fat Tulip" (which was an English TV program). She explained that if she ever had to send a neighbor or friend to pick us up from school in an emergency, she would have them tell us, "Fat Tulip." We never actually needed to use it, but it was helpful and reassuring to have that password.

I also once read a tip (from a reader in the comments section, I think) to teach children that if they get lost, they should find a mom and ask her to help. That seems like a smart idea since it might be hard for little kids to figure out who is in a uniform and intimidating to approach someone so official and formal. And another friend actually writes her cell phone number on her kids' arms when they're in sports stadiums in case they get lost. Brilliant, right?

Do you let your kids talk to strangers? Have you read them any books or given them any instructions? I've been curious to ask you guys this for a while now!

Update: Read the comments! They are amazing! Totally worth it! Thanks so much to everyone who weighed in. xoxo

P.S. More do or don'ts, including tomboy perfumes and changing your name when you get married.

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